We all have limiting beliefs about ourselves. The kind of “I am not good enough, I am not worthy, I don’t belong, I am not capable” and so on. They are beliefs because they do not reflect the truth of who we are.
They are conclusions we made based on situations where we did not get what we wanted or needed. Often these happened far back in early childhood. As we have cultivated them since, they sit really deep.
Like when it really irritates your parents when you get loud, you will start believing that expressing yourself is not desired. And thus you will most likely stop doing it. Or in any case learn that expressing yourself leads to conflict.
In a way we need beliefs and assumptions about the world around us. In order to navigate and to feel safe. Assumptions and beliefs about how other people are, how the world is – and even how we are – help us orientate in life. And that is why chances are high that something in you has absolutely no interest in questioning them. In contrary.
But as a result, seeing the world through a lens of “I am not good enough” or “I can’t express myself” will make you experience it exactly this way. And thus re-create situations that are confirming your belief as the truth.
A vicious circle that can only be interrupted by stopping to believe in your limiting beliefs.
“Every person takes the limits of their own field of vision for the limits of the world.” – Arthur Schopenhauer