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We often mistake love for being nice and kind. For accommodating everyone’s needs and desires. For helping where we can, for approving the other’s expressions or behaviours, for avoiding saying “no”. However, true love, whether for oneself or others, has many faces. At times, love (or self-love!) finds its expression in calling someone out. In putting a limit to protect your own or others’ limits. In saying stop to keep yourself sane, to keep your… Read More »Love can be ruthless

The Power of Intuition Over Logic When we allow our imagination and intuition to provide us with information, and stop making sense of everything, we are able to connect dots and seek solutions far beyond our rational mind’s capability. In fact, our rational mind, as amazing as it is in counting, calculating and analysing, is literally in the way when we wish to seek new, intuitive paths and solutions. Research figures vary but they all… Read More »Stop Making Sense

It’s human to want to fit in. To be understood, share values and feel belonging. Saying yes without questioning. Often, when making decisions, we get caught up in what others would see as the “right” choice — or what we feel should be done. We seek the decision that will make others say “Yes, I get you”, because it gives us a sense of understanding and safety. However when our decisions are not in line… Read More »When Saying Yes Feels Wrong

Having the courage to leave gaps. Easier said than done. For a workaholic like me, who rarely lets any opportunity or chance slip by, who finds it hard to tolerate not being fully occupied, and who – to a certain extent – generates endorphins from activity, it doesn’t come naturally to leave any “gaps”. For a long time, I’ve had plans to slow down my life a little and, on a professional level, to develop new… Read More »The courage to leave gaps

I am not a huge fan of New Year’s resolutions – but if there is one (that we wish to everyone!), it is being absolutely unapologetic: –    About my health –    About enough rest –    About putting my own desires first (and others’ second) –    About respecting my boundaries –    About caring and respecting my needs –    About embracing the magic of who I am –    About creating projects, things, relationships, work,… that I love… Read More »An unapologetic new year

We are spending the winter in the South of Spain. The last weeks Andalucia spoiled us with pleasant temperatures, frequent sunshine and a beautiful Atlantic beach at our doorstep. It has been a dream of ours to live close to the sea. Being able to mostly avoid the cold and wet season has proven to be a good choice. Such a privilege! And yet, it hasn’t felt great all the way… This step required emptying… Read More »Creation through tension

When we speak about success, we generally think of big achievements, and more specifically, those at professional level. Getting a diploma or a new job, a high paying client, being promoted, or assuring a major breakthrough for your company. Having goals and achieving them is great. But let me ask you — how do such accomplishments truly make you feel? I’ll never forget the time I worked toward my A-levels in school. For at least two… Read More »It’s not about your goal

Many of us struggle with constantly having too much to take care of, both at work and private levels, and as a result, battling with a continual state of exhaustion. I could write a lot about how to avoid this and how important it is to rest and prioritize. However, let’s turn it around: being a person knowing this struggle very well, I will outline the perfect system for a constant struggle of “having too… Read More »The perfect system of having too much

Transition stands for any kind of change, and more precisely, for the phase when you are “in between” – not yet there and not fully here anymore. Even though it can be exciting and might have been initiated voluntarily or with lots of enthusiasm, the moment you are in a transition, moving from one to the other can be quite confusing and uncomfortable. We have been moving to Spain very recently. It had been our plan since… Read More »Navigating transition

Judgement is a means to protect ourselves. To not let ourselves be confronted with the uncomfortable feelings and potentially needed actions related to it. It provides a safe distance to whatever we condemn in the other. But here’s the catch: what we judge in someone else is often a reflection of what we disdain within ourselves. The envy, disgust, or anger we feel toward others may reveal what we are unwilling to acknowledge within ourselves.… Read More »Protect your judgement