Meaning that both are labels that we attach to events, actions or people. What is good and bad anyway other than a randomly attached definition that can be very different in another country, society or family. In any case, it is always based on our conditioning. Without wanting to judge the label “bad”, it simply doesn’t serve you nor anybody else. We use a lot of our energy to deny or rage over aspects of… Read More »Good and bad are equally bad
Setting an intention is a very powerful tool. Why? Because it points your focus to something that you want to experience or achieve. Focus is tricky as our subconscious focuses on whatever it perceives being most important. And very often, this is not what is most important to you but simply anything that your mind is occupied with. If, for example, you wish to find a new relationship but something in you believes that you… Read More »The power of intention
Have you heard of FOMO? It sounds quite cool but it’s not cool at all when you have it. It’s the fear of missing out and it is a huge driver for burnout. Typically it makes you feel that you absolutely need to be in every single meeting, to dance on every party, and that you cannot miss a single lesson of your Chinese course as well as of your gym class the same evening,… Read More »Dare to miss out
There is a gap between stimulus and response. Even if it’s just a milli-second, the moment something happens we still have a chance to decide on how we wish to respond before we do. Re-action is literally acting on something that happened before. And it is often understood as a response that is not based on choice, but on pure and immediate re-action. “I over-reacted” is an example where we responded in a way that we… Read More »Mind the gap
Any amount of action will not get you the desired results if your being is not aligned. You have to get ready inside first. You can’t benefit from a great view until you have climbed the mountain. It won’t be available to you until you have brought yourself up to a certain level. If you want to become a successful entrepreneur, you need to become one inside. If you wish to write a book, become… Read More »You can’t outdo your being
If you focus on getting rid of what you don’t want anymore, you will create more of exactly that (what you don’t want). So if you focus on your problems, you are likely to repeat or amplify them. It is simple: our focus creates our reality. When I focus on seeing red sports cars, I will see red sports cars. When I focus on not seeing pink elephants – I WILL see pink elephants. If… Read More »Don’t focus on your problems
Control is an illusion. We think that we have control over our lives (or most parts of it). But do we really? Do we have control over our kids? Over our house? Over the weather? Over other people’s behaviors or reactions? Over our health? Most of the above will for sure be influenced by our actions, the end result however is out of our control. It is a quite sobering way to see it, I… Read More »Be out of control
Have you ever been really fed up with anything in your life? Or completely bored? Most probably, what’s been missing in that moment is purpose. I know it is a big word but it doesn’t have to be a big thing to find it. In Christianism, purpose declares why you exist. It captures the heart of why you are on this Earth and why Jesus died for you. That gives it a quite heavy meaning.… Read More »What the hell is purpose?
Language is powerful… The words you use do not only express the content of their literal meaning. They also transmit a lot about yourself and how you relate to what you are saying. And they heavily influence what message lands with your audience. If you want to take the lead and increase the impact of what you are saying, avoid the words “just”, “only” and “because”. Here’s what message they transmit: Just – “I am… Read More »Choose your next words carefully
Many people have a to-do list. But do you have a to-be list? Doing and being are closely connected when it comes to achieving goals. You can work hard towards goals and take a tremendous amount of action. But you may never get there fully, or stay there, if you do not adapt your being. This counts in particular for bigger shifts. Our attitude and the way we show up determine to a large extent where… Read More »Be – Do – Have