When you are confronted with a difficult situation, a painful event like a loss, to be dismissed from your job or a split-up, your mind will be very busy figuring out ways out of the pain. You may have a reflex of numbing or distracting yourself (which is OK as we cannot always handle all emotions in one go). Or your mind will be looking for “ways out”, for fixing or making right what went… Read More »Accepting does not mean giving in
Going for something is far more effective than going against something. Whenever we are angry or frustrated with a person, a situation, or job, we will try to get away from it. However, going with a negative emotion is not only very little inspiring, it can also be very misleading. When we are in rage, when we crave revenge, when we want to get rid of something or somebody, even managing to do so generally… Read More »What do you want instead?
Managing our agendas is probably one of the most challenging undertakings nowadays. Most of us are always super busy, at work as well as with family and in our spare time. With the result that we feel stressed, overworked, busy but unproductive and constantly in motion without really getting anywhere. The most common mistakes we make are: – Planning in too much – Underestimating the time things take – Not planning in “rest” or break… Read More »Become an essentialist
Completion is one of the most important steps in the creative process. It is the key to building momentum. There are three reasons why it is powerful: 1. Acknowledge what you HAVE achieved, done, created We tend to look forward at what we want to achieve and what we have not done yet, with the risk of dismissing what we have already achieved. Give your subconscious the message that you ARE a powerful creator! 2. Look back… Read More »Complete and move on
Have you ever noticed what you are naturally good at? We generally take note of what is tiring and annoying us, what we don’t like doing and what we are not doing well (our inner critic!). And not of the contrary, what we love. But it is exactly these talents and areas that distinguish us from others, that we enjoy most, and that we are probably really good at. These natural abilities often stay unnoticed,… Read More »Did you ever notice?
The human approach to everything is coming from the question “how can I do this?” Whatever we want to create or achieve, the first thing our mind is coming up with is the question “how?” And that is the one that kills many dreams. In fact, it is not really helping to create anything. Because it makes us get in our heads, and with that we are disconnected from our intuition and our connection to… Read More »Get out of the way!
We often feel not being listened to when we do not get what we want or ask for. And that might be true. But do you really listen??? I am thinking fast and talking fast and whilst I listen to somebody else, the answers and comments start popping up in my head automatically. When I started my education as a coach I had to realise that I am not really listening. I was hearing the… Read More »Are you really listening?
There are moments where we feel everything else than great. When the world makes you swallow bitter pills. When you are just completely out of flow. It helps to grieve when necessary and to acknowledge things are shit when they are. But you don’t have to stay there forever, suffering and dimming your light (which makes others suffer too). In order to be happy and to light up or help others around you, you have… Read More »Be a self-activist
When we get angry or irritated with another person, it is likely that their behaviour triggered us. Or something in us. 99,9% of triggers are not caused by what another person is doing or how they are being. They are caused by us not allowing something in ourselves. Something that we may actually have in ourselves but that we strongly try to suppress. And when we see it alive in somebody else, it is very… Read More »What are you not allowing?
It takes will to be in your heart. This may sound contradictory, but it isn’t. Living the life you love is not always sunshine and butterflies. The challenge is that when you are going FOR what you love, you are going AGAINST safety. We all have an ego which has the function to keep you safe: it conveys your deepest fears and it will do everything to prevent you from stepping out of your safety and… Read More »It takes will to be in your heart