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I am not a fan of New Year’s resolutions because generally they don’t last. The reason is that if the motivation for change comes from the hope that with a new year everything will be different, nothing will change. As you will not change anything. I have been struggling with addictive behaviours in my 20s and 30s. And I was hoping that with each move, each new job, each new year, each anniversary, each birthday,…… Read More »Why New Year’s resolutions don’t work

Discover the power of celebrating joy and embracing happiness in life. Explore why many struggle to find joy and pleasure, and learn how nurturing your own happiness can enhance creativity, resilience, and overall wellbeing. We often talk about how to deal with difficult situations, to face our fears, to allow pain and sadness as part of life. Because they are inevitable at times. However, not to be mistaken: we are meant to enjoy life, to… Read More »The power of joy

We all have limiting beliefs about ourselves. The kind of “I am not good enough, I am not worthy, I don’t belong, I am not capable” and so on. They are beliefs because they do not reflect the truth of who we are. They are conclusions we made based on situations where we did not get what we wanted or needed. Often these happened far back in early childhood. As we have cultivated them since,… Read More »Don’t believe your beliefs!

Consciousness is our capacity to observe ourselves, our thoughts and feelings. It is not easy to step out of our minds, to take the distance to look at its messages with curiosity. We usually take all thoughts and feelings generated in our heads and bodies for the truth. And yet they are not. We generate thoughts and feelings based on millions of experiences stored in our brains as guidelines to deal with daily life. But their… Read More »Observe

If we try to be positive at any price, laughing away pain or just ignoring when things go down the drain, we are not gaining anything. In contrary. For someone who is struggling, it’s damaging to hear toxic positivity from friends or see people on social media saying to “just stay positive”. Why can things not be “bad” from time to time? What’s wrong with being sad or angry? We tend to create a segmentation between… Read More »Positivity isn’t positive

Most of us constantly worry about what others think of us. That we might look ridiculous, that people don’t like us or disagree with our actions. It is a natural thing as belonging is one of the most fundamental needs we have as humans. And when others disagree or dislike us, we put that at risk. However, have you ever considered that the majority of people are actually worrying what YOU think about them? And… Read More »Validation

Confidence is often seen as the number one requirement to succeed in this world. But is it really? First of all it is important to distinguish self-confidence from self-esteem or self-worth. The latter is related to your BEING – how you are feeling about yourself. Confidence is more related to your judgement about being able to DO something. This is interesting because feeling prepared to perform a task depends on your skills and experience and… Read More »You don’t need to be confident

It is so easy to criticize somebody. And it is so difficult to say what we want instead. Why? Because criticism is an oblique way to avoid rejection. To tell you that you did something wrong is safer than to tell you what I need and to show you who I am. Disclosing a desire is a quite vulnerable thing to do. When I express a wish, I might get hurt in not receiving what I… Read More »Behind every criticism is a wish

It is a fact that when we take time out to relax, we’re more engaged and productive. I know that. And, it does not really land with me, or encourage me to do so. It is a myth that burnout is only work related. It comes from people doing too much and/or being in situations that are so draining emotionally that they simply burn out. We cannot do everything 100%. We have to set priorities,… Read More »Burn bright, not out!

Why do we so often not receive or materialize what we go for? Why do we downsize or even abandon our projects? Sometimes they suddenly do not feel that important anymore… But the likelihood is big that what we went for or wanted is still true, but the tension it brought up got the better of us. In order to create great stuff, in order to approach anything that feels challenging, we better learn to… Read More »Make use of your tension