Assumptions set us up for misunderstandings and disappointment. Why? Because we don’t see the world as it is, but as we are. Our perception is different from anybody else’s. When we assume something, we do that based on our beliefs, our fears, our hopes and the stories we make up in our minds. We assume what is most logic to us. And yet. It isn’t to everybody else. Often we assume people close to us know… Read More »Don’t make assumptions!
Communication is probably the most beautiful and most complicated thing on Earth. It has so much potential – and so much potential for misunderstanding. When I say something that hurts you, I can naturally assume that this is not my fault as I did not intend to hurt you. So no reason to apologize, to admit that I was wrong (it is so hard to be wrong!). But what if I was responsible for my… Read More »Who’s responsible when someone gets hurt?
When talking about the masculine and feminine, we often rather compare these two, instead of looking at the beautiful marriage of both – in all of us. Masculine and feminine are archetypes relating to the energy moving through us and every creation. In other traditions they are named yin and yang, or shiva and shakti. Everyone of us has both feminine and masculine qualities, independent from which gender you are or feel you belong to.… Read More »Create powerfully using both masculine and feminine energy
We are trained to appear strong and successful. To be shiny and glamorous, to be Instagram-able and untouchable. As a consequence we literally become untouchable. We disconnect from feeling, from being open to the world, from others. There is no connection with anything when we are protecting ourselves from being seen: you cannot connect a plug when there is a lid on it. You cannot plant a tree on a piece of concrete, you can’t… Read More »Vulnerability is the door
Words matter most when spoken with intention. When I have a fight with my partner because I feel not respected by him/her acting in a certain way, I can either address this from a position of “I am right and you are wrong and I want you to know that and to change that”. Or I can come from an intention of: “I want our relationship to be the most loving and amazing on the… Read More »Intention matters
When you are confronted with a difficult situation, a painful event like a loss, to be dismissed from your job or a split-up, your mind will be very busy figuring out ways out of the pain. You may have a reflex of numbing or distracting yourself (which is OK as we cannot always handle all emotions in one go). Or your mind will be looking for “ways out”, for fixing or making right what went… Read More »Accepting does not mean giving in
Going for something is far more effective than going against something. Whenever we are angry or frustrated with a person, a situation, or job, we will try to get away from it. However, going with a negative emotion is not only very little inspiring, it can also be very misleading. When we are in rage, when we crave revenge, when we want to get rid of something or somebody, even managing to do so generally… Read More »What do you want instead?
Managing our agendas is probably one of the most challenging undertakings nowadays. Most of us are always super busy, at work as well as with family and in our spare time. With the result that we feel stressed, overworked, busy but unproductive and constantly in motion without really getting anywhere. The most common mistakes we make are: – Planning in too much – Underestimating the time things take – Not planning in “rest” or break… Read More »Become an essentialist
Completion is one of the most important steps in the creative process. It is the key to building momentum. There are three reasons why it is powerful: 1. Acknowledge what you HAVE achieved, done, created We tend to look forward at what we want to achieve and what we have not done yet, with the risk of dismissing what we have already achieved. Give your subconscious the message that you ARE a powerful creator! 2. Look back… Read More »Complete and move on
Have you ever noticed what you are naturally good at? We generally take note of what is tiring and annoying us, what we don’t like doing and what we are not doing well (our inner critic!). And not of the contrary, what we love. But it is exactly these talents and areas that distinguish us from others, that we enjoy most, and that we are probably really good at. These natural abilities often stay unnoticed,… Read More »Did you ever notice?