We are trained to appear strong and successful. To be shiny and glamorous, to be Instagram-able and untouchable. As a consequence we literally become untouchable. We disconnect from feeling, from being open to the world, from others. There is no connection with anything when we are protecting ourselves from being seen: you cannot connect a plug when there is a lid on it. You cannot plant a tree on a piece of concrete, you can’t… Read More »Vulnerability is the door
Words matter most when spoken with intention. When I have a fight with my partner because I feel not respected by him/her acting in a certain way, I can either address this from a position of “I am right and you are wrong and I want you to know that and to change that”. Or I can come from an intention of: “I want our relationship to be the most loving and amazing on the… Read More »Intention matters
When you are confronted with a difficult situation, a painful event like a loss, to be dismissed from your job or a split-up, your mind will be very busy figuring out ways out of the pain. You may have a reflex of numbing or distracting yourself (which is OK as we cannot always handle all emotions in one go). Or your mind will be looking for “ways out”, for fixing or making right what went… Read More »Accepting does not mean giving in
Going for something is far more effective than going against something. Whenever we are angry or frustrated with a person, a situation, or job, we will try to get away from it. However, going with a negative emotion is not only very little inspiring, it can also be very misleading. When we are in rage, when we crave revenge, when we want to get rid of something or somebody, even managing to do so generally… Read More »What do you want instead?
Managing our agendas is probably one of the most challenging undertakings nowadays. Most of us are always super busy, at work as well as with family and in our spare time. With the result that we feel stressed, overworked, busy but unproductive and constantly in motion without really getting anywhere. The most common mistakes we make are: – Planning in too much – Underestimating the time things take – Not planning in “rest” or break… Read More »Become an essentialist
Completion is one of the most important steps in the creative process. It is the key to building momentum. There are three reasons why it is powerful: 1. Acknowledge what you HAVE achieved, done, created We tend to look forward at what we want to achieve and what we have not done yet, with the risk of dismissing what we have already achieved. Give your subconscious the message that you ARE a powerful creator! 2. Look back… Read More »Complete and move on
Have you ever noticed what you are naturally good at? We generally take note of what is tiring and annoying us, what we don’t like doing and what we are not doing well (our inner critic!). And not of the contrary, what we love. But it is exactly these talents and areas that distinguish us from others, that we enjoy most, and that we are probably really good at. These natural abilities often stay unnoticed,… Read More »Did you ever notice?
The human approach to everything is coming from the question “how can I do this?” Whatever we want to create or achieve, the first thing our mind is coming up with is the question “how?” And that is the one that kills many dreams. In fact, it is not really helping to create anything. Because it makes us get in our heads, and with that we are disconnected from our intuition and our connection to… Read More »Get out of the way!
We often feel not being listened to when we do not get what we want or ask for. And that might be true. But do you really listen??? I am thinking fast and talking fast and whilst I listen to somebody else, the answers and comments start popping up in my head automatically. When I started my education as a coach I had to realise that I am not really listening. I was hearing the… Read More »Are you really listening?
There are moments where we feel everything else than great. When the world makes you swallow bitter pills. When you are just completely out of flow. It helps to grieve when necessary and to acknowledge things are shit when they are. But you don’t have to stay there forever, suffering and dimming your light (which makes others suffer too). In order to be happy and to light up or help others around you, you have… Read More »Be a self-activist